Show Introduction

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It's time now to get the hell out of your life . A weekly broadcast with real people sharing real struggles and offering real hope . Today's show will encourage , inspire and empower you to face life's challenges with a bold confidence and renewed hope . Now let's join our host , ron Myers . The promoter .

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Hello , my friends , it is so good to be with you today . I'm excited about today's program the power of faith , the power of coming out of hiding . Did you ever play hide and seek as a child ? Well , a lot of people are playing hide and seek right now in life . They're hiding from God . My guest was doing that in Spokane , Washington , but God was beginning to work in her life and then God told her to head to the Mississippi Gulf Coast . Why would she come here ? Well , she's going to tell you , but what a story she has . We have become friends and she is just very well loved in this community . Dallas , welcome to the studios and tell us about you coming to the Mississippi Gulf Coast .

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This is exactly where God told us to come .

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Thousands of cities in the US , but yet God sent you to the Gulf Coast . Why ?

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Well , I have a pretty hard background but unfortunately it's very common how I grew up and what I've been through . But the difference is God really used my career to save my life and through that I'm a barber . I've owned and operated a barbershop in Spokane for the last number of years and through that , when I built it , I built it about me . I built it so I could make a name for myself , so I could make a legacy . But over the past couple of years God really broke that down and said I want to use this to help other people , not just to help you . And over the past couple of years he's really just ripped my heart apart and shown me that we can use whatever we do for work to change the trajectory of not only our lives but the lives of everyone around us .

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So , dallas , what

Dallas's Journey to the Gulf Coast

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was life like before you met God ?

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That's the thing Everyone always wants to know . Well , what was it before God ? There wasn't really a before God . He was always around . My past was more about what I really knew about him and meeting Jesus . Right , God was always involved . We were in and out of churches , I had praying grandparents , but that idea of the fear of God when I was growing up was a genuine fear . Like I was terrified of him . Because if we were showing up to church but then going home and the things that were happening behind closed doors was happening , how could God be good ? It didn't make any sense . Abandonment is a huge thing . In my life I've been without my mother since about 18 months old and with my dad . So being , you know , separated or left from my mom and then growing up with a single dad for quite some time , that was pretty abusive . When I was growing up there again , was that like well , is the father really good Cause I didn't have any you're talking about the heavenly father .

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I didn't have any visual of that in my real life , so I never thought of him as good . I thought of him as someone to be afraid of , like if you do something wrong , a lightning bolt will come down , you know , and I grew up with a very strong work ethic , so it was always about working for him . What can I do for him to stay out of trouble , to be good ? Obviously , at some point that came to a shocking halt multiple times , just simply because we can't work for our salvation . We can't do that .

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All right , that's , it's called grace , isn't it ? Amen , amen . So were you a party girl .

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I grew up in Helena , montana . I ended up in Spokane , washington . Because of how wild I was , it got to a point where my dad was on I believe his third wife and they just could not control me . I think I was just about to turn 16 and you know , drinking and smoking and having sex and running away and I just was doing all the things I could do and at one point my dad looked at me and said you look just like her . He was talking about my biological mom . I was around the same age as her when they were really struggling .

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Did he mean that as a compliment or as a slap ?

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Absolutely not , it was , it was he was heartbroken because to him it was like this is happening again . And I'm sure , looking back , that he felt at fault , like why can't I , I couldn't do it with your mom , and now I can't help you , I can't change you , I can't fix you . So there again was that God thought he can't fix me , so he'll leave me . And it just pounded it back into my brain . So I came to Spokane because that's where my biological mom was , and he dropped me off on her doorstep and said well , you've been through this and now you're clean and sober , so maybe you'll be able to help her . And I felt utterly betrayed .

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Now Dallas . I've got to know you a little bit and you have a very serving heart . It seems like you are always doing something for someone else .

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I mean at the end of the day , this is always what I think about multiple times a day . I am saved to serve Christ and others Bottom line . So what are the things that I can do on a daily basis to a show people who Jesus is and be , have the relational content with those same people

Childhood Trauma and Fear of God

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to show them what he's done in my life ? We have to build a relationship and I can do that at the barbershop .

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Yeah , yeah , absolutely . I think of my story when I was young and I was troubled , you know , wild and drugs and all the kind of things you were doing . When I began to follow Jesus , 99 percent of my family never believed that I really had a conversion . Did you deal with that ? Did they say , oh , there she goes again in one of those phases ?

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To be honest , I'm not sure , because I never really put a lot of importance on that . I've always been that kind of girl that well , I don't care what anybody thinks , but inside I really did .

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And that is the point that I was getting to that there are people listening right now that they want to step over into the land of their destiny . They want to step over with God , but they're so worried about what others will say .

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Here's the best way that I can , I can think , to explain . It is when I was walking out the church life right , that stereotypical conversion type of story that was really hard . It was really hard and I fell away multiple times . The reason is because I didn't have a true , honest to goodness experience with Jesus . When that actually happened and I truly experienced him in my life and I met him , everything started to change tell us about that well I my life got a lot harder very quickly when I met Jesus .

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But I had been working on my relationship with one of my sisters I'm the oldest of 13 and she was going to be preaching at this mega church in Spokane which I had , seven years prior , vowed to never walk into again . I just had my son . So I was still really struggling with some postpartum depression , a ton of anxiety , and I was drinking heavily to try to combat that . And I'd been walking with God , opening my Bible a little bit , turning on a little worship music here and there again , but nothing major . And anyway she invited me to service and I just went oh , I don't want to go . But long story short , I ended up . I made a commitment to her and that was part of my change in life . I have to say things and then follow through hard things . So I said I'd go . We were on the way there and I basically made one of those deals with God where I said you have to show up If I'm going to go in there . I know you can .

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I've read it in the Bible where people have said put the wool down , make it wet on top , dry on bottom . I need it again . I'm going to flip it over . I want it wet on bottom , dry on top . So I said , god , I know you can do this and it has to be for me , it has to be personal . I'm not just going to take a generalized sermon and say , yeah , that was for me , show up . So I mapped it out in my head . I went right to the front of the church this is a big church and my anxiety is through the roof . But I just wanted to focus on whoever was in front of me on the stage and nobody else . So worship begins and I felt free there in worship I could feel the Holy spirit . I knew I was safe and it was nice to feel the Holy spirit again . We do worship and it's the church where you shake hands and say hi to your neighbor and anxiety lady .

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I hate that .

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And I feel a tap on my shoulder and man , this woman , you're Dallas , aren't you ? And I said yeah , oh man , I need to talk to you at the end of service .

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So there I was for 45 minutes wondering what imperil you know just I probably hurt her or her son or someone she knows . We talked after service and this woman said she had met me 10 years prior and wasn't even from Spokane . She was on her way through and God stopped her on the freeway and told her to show up at that church . She didn't know why , but as soon as she heard me singing from four rows back , she knew that he had sent her there for me and she said Dallas , I know that you've been lost , but God sent me here to tell you that I still want to use your voice . You used to sing and it's going to be different , but he still wants to use your voice . If you would just give him back your life . And now here we are talking on a podcast . Right , it's my voice , it's just in a different way .

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So this lady hears you in church singing , so

A Divine Encounter in Church

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you're a singer . I didn't know that . Yeah .

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Yeah .

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Oh , we'll have to . Uh , we'll have to talk about that later . God stopped her on the highway and told her to get to that church to see you .

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It was . It was pretty incredible . And after having made this deal with him in the car , if you want my life and you really want a relationship with me , not just go to church , Dallas . Get your life together , Dallas , because that's how it is , how it had always felt . No , I want a relationship with you , Then show me that . Wow , Prove it to me and make it personal . And boy did he make it personal .

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So I began to be part of this church life center and I got really involved . But if I'm completely honest , as I said before , most people go oh , Christian , so ticket to the perfect life ? Not true . And I wasn't at a place where I was fully surrendered . I thought I was , but I wasn't there yet , Right ? So I began to walk with him , opening up my Bible , studying a lot more , trying to really form a relationship with him by spending time with Jesus .

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But I was still drinking , I still had this anxiety , I still had severe depression . I didn't have an answer . There wasn't . You know , pray it away . That's not . That's not a thing . Mental health is a big deal , especially in this day and age , and it is a hidden , hidden thing . People don't want to talk about it . So I started to get real about that stuff In May . I'll be three years sober .

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So there was a day in May where we went to my in-laws house and just being around groups of people like that were very uncomfortable for me and I began to drink , drank there , went home after we had people over , drank there I'm . I don't even remember the night , but I'll tell you . The next morning I woke up and I pulled myself into the bathroom and I looked at my face in the mirror and I didn't know who she was and I just began to cry and to scream like audibly screaming out . I'd been walking back with the Lord for about two years now and I just said , God , if I wanted to kill myself , if I can't kill myself , you keep stopping me from doing it . I'm trying to drink myself to sleep , I'm trying to you know , pills , whatever .

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If I can't kill myself , you have to kill my flesh , because it's all I can think about my , my son , my husband , everyone . Would be so much better if I just wasn't here , If I wasn't a problem for all these people around me , like I'm doing what the world says God wants me to do , but it's not getting better . So the only thing I could think to say out loud was if I can't kill myself , then you have to kill my flesh . And it was so clear . He said your drinking isn't the problem , your problems are the problems . So you have to put that alcohol down so we can go there together . We'll never be able to go there if you won't stop numbing them .

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You know , dallas , you're talking to someone out there right now , listening A hundred percent . That is going through what you're going through . Yes , now you're like the lady that was on the interstate . He pulled you in here today to be on the mic to talk to the person that's listening .

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You know , I can only tell people what Jesus has done for me . Right , every person's situation is a little bit different , but at the end of the day , when I really sat down and thought about it , I said what is one good thing ? Name one good thing that alcohol does in my life ? One , and at first , when I was still very manipulative about it , right , this is always the response that I get when I'm having this conversation with people . Well , you know , it gives me a little bit of courage or it lubricates social situations . Why in the world would I want to pay for something to do that for me when I know that I can do that on my own ?

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But it's going to take some work . It is hard to get sober and to stay sober . I promised God a year and now we're close to three and I won't lie , there's been mishaps in there . But I will tell you , I have sat in the last three years and everybody , everybody in this world , has had a hard time the last three years with everything that's gone on socially , politically , economically . But I have faced every single one of those things sober .

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I sense with you you don't really care what anybody

Breaking Free from Addiction

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thinks . And to compliment that , you're so transparent , you're so honest and I think honesty is exactly what God wants nowadays . But a lot of people hide behind what they're doing , but they don't realize . God knows what you're doing , so why hide around ? Just come on , come , let's be honest , let's open up , let's have some dialogue . I try to tell people when you're really going into a problem and you really need God , the first thing you have to do is you've got to be honest , you've got to open up to God .

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He can't heal things that we are hiding . That's it , point blank . And we're not hiding them . No , we can't . I mean , that's the thing I know . A lot of people see those scriptures in the Bible and they love to twist them up . Well , if God already knows my prayers , then why should I pray ? Because this isn't about religion , this is about relationship . At the end of the day , if we're not willing to get in relationship with him , nothing will change . I promise you that .

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Dallas . Something happened at Christmas City . I heard a lady say oh my goodness , that's that lady from TikTok . Oh , lord , meaning you . You're pretty big on TikTok , aren't you ?

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I think , social media . I have like 130,000 followers on social media . Tiktok was a weird thing too During COVID . I had downloaded it and just thought there's funny videos on here . I didn't know anything about it and I found myself kind of using it to zone out , and I , you know , with alcohol , I noticed those behaviors and so I said , okay , god , delete this thing . And I did for a really long time and he called me back to it . He said I did want you on social media , but I want you on it for me , not for you .

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So you're using social media , especially TikTok , for your platform .

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Yeah , and I mean that's really all I do . When I started it was I don't . I don't pre-film , I don't do anything special . When the Holy Spirit sits on me and says I need you to share this , then I just turn it on . It's all raw and real .

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It's not . You know , I wish it could be prettier and cooler , but that's not what I'm called to do . Don't ever wish that , because this younger generation , they just want somebody to be real and you're real . So tell us this you have a connection with young people . What's on the heart of the young people ? What ?

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are some of the situations you're hearing through social media that people are going through . You would be shocked and really my audience is very strange on social media . You would think , because of the way that I look , the stuff that I deal with , the way that I speak , that it would be a younger generation , but it's really not . I have people from 18 to . There is a lady that is like one of my most hardcore followers and she's like 72 years old , so people can see their lives in what I'm talking about , because all of us are dealing with the same things .

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Listeners , you mentioned of what she looked like . First of all , she's just a beautiful lady . But I do have to ask you this Is there anywhere except your neck and face ? On your body you don't have a tattoo .

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The one thing I've always said is that I won't ever get my stomach tattooed .

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but pretty much everywhere else has artwork we need to quit conforming to what the world wants and start becoming who God says we are . So are you who God says you are ?

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I am progressing towards that every day . That's that's kind of the biggest thing that I try to remind myself and others . We are not perfect . There was only one perfect man . I will never be perfect , but if I'm progressing in my relationship with Jesus and allowing the Holy Spirit to move me and I'm not dragging him around , we're good .

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Well , we're almost out of time . How do people get to see some of those great videos on TikTok ? How do they find you on TikTok ?

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So TikTok and Instagram . My handle is the same , it's dallasthebarbernoel . You can find me on Instagram or TikTok dallasthebarbernoel .

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All right , noel like yeah , noel is my .

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it's my middle name . Yeah and OEL .

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Some encouragement right now to somebody out there listening that needs to get the hell out of their life . Yeah .

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What would you tell them ? You know , I know when you're struggling . When I was struggling , I wanted to hide all of it . I was so ashamed of all of it . But I can tell you and I will promise you that there are people that God has called to walk beside you .

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None of us were meant to do any of the stuff in life alone . If you look at Jesus , which he is the prime example , he had 12 amazing men around him all the time and they were a crazy bunch , and when they went out to do what they were called to do , they did it in pairs . We are supposed to do life together , and that means the ugly stuff and the amazing stuff . I promise that there is people that God has called to put directly into your life , to walk beside you . I know for me , our ministry at Surrendered Studios that's what we're doing . We're not just giving free haircuts and then saying good luck with your life . We are called to walk beside people who are still hurting , because I've been there , I know what it looks like

Finding Purpose Through Social Media

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and I am , through Christ , strong enough to go back into that junk with somebody else and I will sit there as long as it takes , until they're ready to jump out themselves .

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When I return . It's time to quit hiding from God .

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You're listening to Get the Hell Out of your Life with your host , ron Myers . Real stories , real struggles and real hope .

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When God begins to draw us to him , something really strange begins to happen . We suddenly become completely aware of all the sin in our life . My name is Mark and this is the Journey I want to encourage you today that , even though you may feel shame and guilt when you think about all the bad things you've done in your life , there is no need to try to hide from God . He loves you and it's pointless anyway . The Psalms tell us that God knew us before we were born , that he laid out all the days of our life .

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In Psalm 139 , david reminds us of God's perfect knowledge of man . He says God knows our thoughts , the words we will speak , our comings and goings . There is nowhere we can go to hide from him . And yet , even though he knows everything we've ever done in our life or will do , he still loves us enough that he sent his only son , jesus , to die on a cross and pay the penalty for our sin so that we can be made clean and right with God . It's only natural to feel guilty about our sin , but God loves us and he wants us to walk in the freedom he offers through a relationship with Jesus . When you do , the guilt and the shame will eventually fade away . So don't try to hide from God . Instead , run to Him .

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Here's today's refreshing word from Proverbs 3 , verses 5-6 . Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding . In all your ways , acknowledge Him and he shall direct your paths .

The Journey to Sobriety and Mental Health

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You're tired of how you're living .

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We'll change it . You don't like where you're headed .

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My friends . Hide and seek . Did you play that as a child ? I did . I loved it .

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A lot of us are playing hide and seek right now . We're hiding from God , but we don't want anybody to seek us because we're just wallowing in our own self-pity and we're sitting on a pity pot thinking that , as Dallas said , that we'd be better off not here . That's not true . I want to encourage you today that God is desiring you to quit playing hide and seek . He has had his arms open for you since the day you were born . He wants his children to come back into the family , to come back home to him so he can help you , he can heal you and minister to you no more hiding . He knows everything that's going on and I know some of you feel shame and you feel condemnation , but there is no shame , there is no condemnation in Christ . He is total forgiveness , past , present , in the future .

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So today is the day for you to quit playing hide and seek . Walk into the arms of your heavenly Father and let him just love the hell out of you . And this is what will happen . It happened to Dallas , it happened to me , it happened to all my guests . Once we unite with Jesus , there's a transformation . Our sins are gone , the guilt is gone and then the process of growing and renewing our mind , turning into the person we were created to be , new desires , new hopes and optimism comes into your life . You don't know all the answers , but you have the confidence and the trust that Jesus is going to take care of you . He will so . Today I want to encourage anybody playing hide and seek with God . Quit playing hide and seek . He knows what you're going through . He's got his arms open . Just walk into his arms and say Jesus , I am yours . Walk into his arms and say Jesus , I am yours .

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How do you get the ? Hell out of your life , get on your knees and cry out to the Lord .

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He hears you , right where you are how to get the hell out of your life . Well , yeah , replace it with Jesus . We got to be born again , born of the spirit , and that's by trusting Jesus Christ , turning from our sins and trusting Jesus .

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You find out about this man by the name of Jesus , who went to the cross and gave his life so that we will have a life more abundantly . And if you can receive that love , he will love that hell out of you you trust in him and you let him love the hell right out of you .

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How do you get the hell out of your life ? Oh gosh , jesus , jesus , jesus Jesus . Jesus is the way the truth and the life . No one comes to the Father except through him . So how do you get the hell out of your life ? Record a voice memo and email it to me , ron at the promoter dot o-r-g , and you can help encourage a person listening to get the hell

A Message for Those Who Are Hiding

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out of their life .

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Well , friends , my time is up and I want to encourage you to take a trip yes , a trip to the island of tranquility . It's peaceful and restful . It's just you and Jesus , and you're opening up your heart with all your thoughts , your concerns , your anger , whatever it is that's on your heart . God wants to hear from you . Like I said earlier , he knows what you're going through . He just wants to love the hell out of you . If today's program has spoken to you , please share it with someone . It's called Get the Hell Out of your Life and it is available on all podcast platforms . Well , I'll see you next week . In the meantime , remember this I love you , jesus loves you , and when you give Jesus your heart , you not only get the hell out of your life , life gets good .

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